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February 26, 2021 7:00 am
Listen to Adrian Rogers as he reveals the convicting truth of Ephesians 525 men come strictly as I want divorce my wife and I civilize so well. I don't love her anymore.
A lot of encouragement for me because the Bible says in Ephesians chapter 5 verse 25. Husbands, love their wine is not a suggestion, that's a command behind every command of God is the unlimited power of God carried out.
We are commanded to love welcome to love words findings featuring timeless messages from a beloved pastor and Bible teacher Adrian Rogers in part one of today's message we learn the use of family faithfulness, first by recognizing that marriage was made by heaven, it's a supreme commitment permanent and purposeful.
Yet the image of marriage can be marred by hell. The enemy is waged war against the home because marriage symbolizes how God loves his church.
How should we respond when troubles and trials arise is there hope for a broken marriage.
If you have your Bible turn to Matthew chapter 19 again. Here's Adrian Rogers take your Bibles and turn to Matthew chapter 19 talking about family faithfulness, keeping the love alive, you know there's something very sad. In today's world of what it is. Is this where have so many who have what I call just throw away marriages. It just doesn't work out so they just throw it away. As somebody said they get married as an IV men that ideal turns to an ordeal, then they are looking around for a new BU. Let's say, well, let's see what God's word as to say Matthew chapter 19 beginning in verse one and it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coast of Judea beyond Jordan and great multitudes followed him, and he healed them and the Pharisees also came under him, tempting him, that means testing him and saying to him is it lawful for man to put away his wife for every cause that is if she's not crack the park. She cannot cook or she has mismanaged the finances are if she's irritable.
Can I just put her away and he answered and said unto them, have ye not read by the way, Jesus expects you to read the Bible, my friend, have you not read that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, let me say this one most damning things today that that that was done is the blur the distinction between male and female he made them male and female, and said thought this clause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they claim that is made to shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder by saying to him, why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and put her away. He say that to them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you are allowed you to put away your wise, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication. That means sexual immorality and shall marry another committed adultery and whoso married her which is put away doth committed (well, I meant to stop reading right there for moment matter. Three things I will lay on your heart and I pray God that he will write them in delicately upon your heart. The first thing I want you to understand is that marriage is made by heaven, marriage is made by heaven. Look, if you will, in verse four have you not read that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they twain shall be one flesh out matters not come from sociology. It did not come from the primordial ooze of evolution.
Marriage is not some cultural innovation marriage is made by heaven is God's plan that if you could take the best carpenter in the world and give him the assignment to build a house, but if that carpenter doesn't know what a house is no way to get around no matter how good a car. You can take the best people in the world and say build a whole but if they don't know what a home and a family is. According God is no way possible that they can build it because they have no God. Now God gives us the guide here and in all, marriage problems, and all marriage counseling is all built around three words here three verbs number one is the one leave look at it for this cause. Verse five shall a man leave his father and mother_that, and shall cleave_that and then finally and they shall be one flesh on the score, they shall be one flash and there is leave, cleave, be one that's what marriage is. You leave and you claim now when God says you to leave, listen to me, that speaks of the priority of marriage making notes. Write that down. Leave speaks of the priority of marriage. Marriage is a romance in which both the hero and heroine die in the first chapter and a new person comes into being and that new person is one flesh that we be one flesh.
Physically and sex is not dirty or impure is a wonderful gift of God. Hollywood has made sex dirty sex is a gift of God. When God says thou shall not commit adultery. When God says flee fornication when God says marriage is honorable in the bed undefiled, but adulterers and warmongers God will judge God is not trying to keep us from sex God is trying to keep sex for us it is God's gift.
And so God is put some high walls to protect and preserve it. It is God's wonderful gift so that a husband and wife didn't know one another and made most intimate relationships as a matter fact when husband and wife would have this relationship in the Bible. The Bible would say they knew one another.
It's a way of saying I love you, that cannot be put into words and the devil has tried to take this which is so wonderful and beautiful and the trivializing. What is the purpose of marriage that we might be one flesh. Physically there. We might be one flesh emotion. I not only should we be sweethearts will be friends best friend is Jesus.
In my next best friends still come behind my best friend was Joyce sure she's my friend she's a friend. She is my lover she's my sweetheart, but she is my friend because we are 1/physically where one flesh emotionally and we are one flesh. Spiritually, because we love the same Lord, where members of the same body. His body ever knows what God wants for marriage is that you take.
And so Jesus says here's what marriage is marriage is made in heaven. He gives us the purpose of marriage. He gives to us the very essence of what marriage is. When I here's the site you may want to look at it with me today. I want you to see that not only is marriage made by heaven, but marriage can be marred by hail marriage may be marred by hail look if you're willing verses one and two and it came to pass that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came to the coast of Judea beyond Jordan and great multitudes followed him, and he healed them. The Pharisees also came under him, tempting him, and saying on him. Is it lawful for man put away his wife for every cause that is just as I said we can be looking for a new BU going down to verse seven. They send him, why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and put away. He said under them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wise, but from the beginning it was not so.
I sent you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another committed adultery and whoso married her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Now God desires that marriage be a permanent union. The only reason that Jesus allowed divorce was for immorality for fornication, but in your margin Matthew five verses 31, 32 Jesus said it had been said, whosoever shall put away his wife, letting give her a writing of divorcement but I sent you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except for saving for the cause of fornication because of her to commit adultery. And whosoever shall marry her that is divorced, commit adultery.
Now let's look at this very carefully. Moses permitted divorce.
He never commanded divorce. Jesus said from the beginning it was not so.
This is not God's original intent. I marriage may be broken by the continual marital unfaithfulness of one of the partners.
The word fornication is the Greek word for neon enemies sexual impurity. But even when a husband or wife is been unfaithful and committed adultery. Does that mean that a divorce is called for no reconciliation and forgiveness is called for to put the family back together.
In spite of that, to forgive, to restore the replace and it can be done reading the book of Hosea, Hosea, the prophet had a wife. His name was Gomer. She finally became a prostitute she got down to the very depths to the grace Hosea went and found her daughter from the slave market restored or forgave her and took her back to be his wife. Now God does allow divorce or marital infidelity. But even if possible sometimes is not possible, but what we try to do, even when that happens in the church is to restore that relationship with forgiveness and grace and becomes what I call the superglue marriage and what the superglue is it stronger, which put back together. That was before was broken.
That can happen that can happen when so many, however trivial excuses for divorce in today's world example people say well the little has gone out of our marriage.
I actually had men come speak to me so I won't divorce my wife and I civilize it well.
I don't love her anymore. You need a lot of encouragement for me because the Bible says in Ephesians chapter 5 verse 25. Husbands, love your wives is not a suggestion, that's a command behind every command of God, is the omnipotent power God carried out. Women are to let the husband. The Bible says in Titus two verse four that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, we are commanded to love not part of the problem is the world's definition of love in our definition of love. I miss you guys a question when you were dated looking around for girlfriend. What were you looking for you will give me. I know what you're looking for you looking for a liquor you are looking for somebody that was attractive physically. You might've also been looking for somebody who was cute somebody who was funny. Somebody had a good sense of humor. That meant they laughed at your jokes. Somebody who was popular by face and body.
That's what you are looking for and your heart began to yell and you finally got close to her and finally got that situation and you leaned over and you whispered in her ear. Something like this. I love you I love you but you know what you really meant is I want you will calls that love which is kind of love is is very conditional and a person whose love that way and that way only he is going to feel very insecure because I mean she might when she's fording jazz what we call a Supreme Court figure, no appeal, and he might've been so handsome but now he's kind of bald and bulging and you think about it now from people because of this attractiveness, what's going to happen when the attractiveness changes that kind of love is conditional love and that's the reason we have so many people who get divorced because they had an emotional conditional. A man loves a woman like he loves her sweet orange. He takes apply Squeezes the juice out of it says nothing out there for me and throws on the ground like a piece of garbage. He lives because of what he can get out of it. Now when the Bible says. Husbands, love your wives, it uses another kind of a word for love. It is the word agape agape love. That's the kind of love that Christ has for the church and it is I'm on conventional love, did you know that God loves you unconditionally and did you know that's the way you love. You make a condition to see if you made feels that you do not love them unconditionally onto happiness while estimated losses. The very first things go to be in a person's mind is feeling you have got to perform. I got to keep the house a certain way have got to look a certain way about to lose a certain number pounds got to do this. I got to do that because if I don't, I may lose him.
I may lose her as a file and then when that divorce comes what happens you I did live up I wasn't good enough. I didn't perform enough and so I was not acceptable to my mate and so somehow we feel guilt and then after a while that guilt turns to what anger do not wait a minute, he had no right to do this and that anger says I was use. Now I'm discarded that anger turns to bitterness. Bitterness is a living hell of a lot of people going through. Just that kind of thing because all that is built on conventional the kind of love that the Bible teaches is an unconditional love and when you know that you are loved unconditionally, rather than fear, there is peace and rather than guilt. There is security, and rather than bitterness. There is joy.
We have to learn to love is Jesus love and that's the reason it takes Christ to make a marriage because friend you don't have a kind of agape love that is not a human product. The Bible says the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost, and when we learn to love unconditionally. We don't have to listen to the devil's lies. We have so many of these lies today and we think that love is a some sort of emotional experience in well. I love you because you make me feel good. Gary Smalley said that that some people treat marriage like it to preach a dog. They only will let dogs what they get out of it, probably, marriage is a two takes a no dog were trying to make somebody else satisfy meet our needs. Basically selfish about nothing. All wrong with romantic love, but friend romantic love is not enough. Marriage is made in heaven.
Marriage may be marred by hail.
But marriage is always marked by hope not want you to see this look at this if you will. God gives you hope in your home. Even if you bend the cost.
Even if you cannot get re-married or what ever the situation and I believe that all legitimate times for person to be remarried but no matter where you all whether your home seems to be a living hell. Where you been deserted. No matter what. Listen to me divorce is not the unpardonable sin is not a dead-end street, and if you been divorced, you are not a second-class citizen is something called the grace of God and we need to hold at this church. Forgiveness is always available. The Bible says in Romans 81. There is no condemnation of those in Christ Jesus. The Bible says in first John 17 the blood of Jesus Christ. God son cleanses us from all sin. Bible says in and Isaiah 118, though your sins be as scarlet, they should be white as snow.
I remember reading the Bible about a woman taken in adultery member saying Stoner Jesus said woman where your cues in anybody accusing you, she said, no man, Lord. He said go to go and sin no more.
I remember reading about the woman at the well.
She had had five husbands. She became an evangelist that led the entire city of Samaria to Christ.
God used her mightily. God doesn't hold grudges.
Let's put this Scripture down.
First Corinthians 6 verses nine through 11 know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom be not deceived me the fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate. That means, homosexuals, nor abusers of themselves with mankind that these are cabbages nor drunkards nor revivalism or extortionists shall inherit the kingdom of God. But a damn big claimant straight up bachelor lifestyle. That's the lifestyle you embrace. You need to get saved, you will not inherit the kingdom of God. But now notice verse 11. I love this and such were some of you. He did not say such are some of you, and such were some of you, but ye are washed, ye are sanctified, you are justified in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and that wonderful if you are in Christ Jesus you know creature and I don't care what is happening the past marriages that are made in heaven marred by Haller marred by hope and he is the God of grace and the God of forgiveness. Many wonderful people come out of broken homes and children, families, heartaches and tears. Yes, divorce is wrong and I want to save our kids from within. So here is a precipice of a cliff and we don't want to fall over. So we go to build a wall appears high as we can. But down in the valley were also going to put an Ambien to help those who have fallen over to make sure this gas and they help us to minister to these people and I must close but friend listen to me. If you are married you make certain the Christ is the head of your home. If your marriage is not a Christian marriage. Give your hearts to Jesus Christ because the devil is working against number two. If you are married continue to feed your love, day by day. Don't take it for granted. Number three. If your divorce, ask God for forgiveness if it was your fault if you were divorced because of someone else's wrongdoing for giving your heart and don't let bitterness carry away Max, remember that your godly home congrats be the greatest testimony you have in this world and if you marry, I beg you kids. You marry only in the law. Build a Christian home is the sweetest place on earth.
The nearest place to have the only part of the garden of Eden. We have left in today.
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