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November 17, 2020 7:00 am
What happens when we teach our children without training this into Adrian Rogers without training is to fail in your past surveys were trying hard all don't that would tie the dog lightly begins when one is welcome to love worth finding featuring the powerful insights and typical lessons of Adrian Rogers part one of today's message Adrian Rogers began explaining five honorable ways to parent her children regardless of our imperfection. First, we are to raise them with steadfast consistent love and with wise encouragement.
As parents we must also limit them.
Taking firm restrictions to set our children free from the bondage of sin. But how are we to lead them. How should we conduct our homes so that they would see God in every circumstance.
If you have your Bible turned to exit his chapter 20 will begin in verse 12. Listen as Adrian Rogers concludes has the nuclear family bomb I come up from his pulpit teacher children all you that your responsibility so I want us to look at it, primarily from the parents point of view. How parents cannot of the children so that the children might honor their parents.
I want to talk to you primarily about being the kind of mom and dad that is worthy of honor. How do we live in such a way that our children can give us on.
Let me give you some ways number one and I will give you about five ways number one by loving them but I listen carefully. Love is not giving your child a lot he wants our walks she wants is given to the child want that child. The Bible teaches that we have an awesome weapon is called a blessing when you give children the gift of the blessing. There are few things in life and give them more peace and confidence they need strokes, not folks they need you to bless them to say in the name of Jesus.
My child I bless you.
Can you imagine what that does to a child when a dad just picks a child up with that child in his arms and says Billy I bless you out of heaven they'll never forget my blessed me.
I wonder how many children have been blessed by Abaddon by touching them by blessing them by forcing them.
Another way to love them. That's by listening to. We think we listen, I wonder how many times do we ever let them get a full sentence out of their mouth before we begin to tell them here's what you need to do.
Here's what you need to do what you need to do. We will listen on the finest forms of communication is saying nothing but just simply listening and if you have a teenager you have to wait for the right time, but I'll guarantee there comes a time when they just clam up and close up and generally is when you're so sleepy you want to go to bed about 11 o'clock. They'll start talking Leventhal just say I'm or pay the price.
If I don't sleep I will sit here I'm going to listen and specially if that teenager has a problem in his or her quote love life" or if they are having problems about their own feelings about themselves. Sit down and listen love them steadfastly and consistently know they need to know mom and dad love them regardless and folks get your kids time to go through all these different stages all kinds of stages.
We live in an age now we want everything we wanted. Now is that we got computers and fax machines give the kid time just be consistent love them with your prayers.
Pray for them, pray for them and pray for them some more and lift them to the Lord, the most loving thing you can do is to call your children before the throne of grace and prayers. So the first thing I'm saying.
Number one is this you must love them, you show you the parents worthy of honor by loving them number two by lifting them listen to this verse.
Colossians 3 verse 21 fathers, provoke not your children to anger, listen to this last day be discouraged wise encouragement.
Here's the principle.
The first principle was real love gives them what they need, not what they want. Here's the second principle wise encouragement is better than lavish praise. Learn the difference between praise and encouragement.
Praise says you are great because you did something that is nothing wrong with brains, but I'm just saying that encouragement is twice as strong as praise praise says your great because you get something encouragement says it is great that something was done and I really appreciate it. There's a real difference there. Listen. Encouragement looks at a child and values that child not primarily for what the child achieve, but for who the child is who is achieving it and saying you can do it. Thank you. I'm so grateful for you.
The fine line what you think about it how you love them, how you were there by letting them by lifting them thoroughly by limiting them by limiting them. Here's the principle it takes firm restrictions to set children free hello. It takes firm restrictions to set children free is your responsibility to liberate them by limiting them first Samuel three verse 13. Here's what God said to Eli.
Fry told him that I would judge his house forever for the iniquity which he North because his sons made themselves vile and he restrained them not heated and set limits your child needs some limits when God put Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. He gave them all that they needed but he also gave them some limits.
Got to do some things you shall not do now when you give your child limits. These limitations will be tested over and over again. The restrictions that you give your child will be tested by the child is going to push against them and if they move that child will have no security but if you set limits and those limits are firm and reasonable and you love what Josh McDowell says he's a rules without a relationship, bring rebellion, but they know you love you got those rules.
They push against those rules and those rules don't move that they have security. If you don't place limitations on your child to a child.
It implies rejection want to taste something we all inwardly desire limitations.
We want and if you don't conquer your child's will somebody else will. I'm telling you, if you do not conquer them they will allow someone else to conquer them now society looks upon setting rules or something bad and that I want to say for most families is one of the toughest, the one most needful things to do what's wrong with many of our church kids today I go about in evangelical churches, then no more bow shouts, and thou shall not today with Mike Bradford going past the 10 Commandments. Here's what Josh McDowell said I was reading a book that is written about the right and wrong. He said they surveyed the kids in evangelical churches and he tells about the survey and I want to listen to.
He said we included seven statements in our study of church youth about objective standards of proof and morality, not notice. This is church youth. Your kids we included seven statements in our study of church youth about objective standards of truth and morality their responses indicate that for the most part our children echo the world's view. For example, 57% of our young people cannot even say that an objective standard of proof exists that church folks that stretch kids 57% did not even believe there was an objective standard and 85% of our kids are liable to reason, just because it's wrong for you. It doesn't mean it's wrong for me to see what a job has been done on our kids and then Josh went on to say, over half 55% agree that everything in life is negotiable. Their idea of distinction between right and wrong is fluid something that is subject to change map Psalm 11 in verse three says if the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do. If we don't have foundational proof. That's the reason that we're preaching a series on the 10 Commandments of God Ted Koppel, ABC's Nightline personality was addressing the 1987 graduating class at Duke University. Listen to what he said.
He said in the place of truth. We have discovered facts for moral absolutes. We have substituted moral ambiguity we now communicate with everyone and say absolutely nothing we have reconstructed the Tower of Babel and it is a television antenna, a thousand voices producing a daily parity of democracy in which everyone's opinion is afforded equal weight regardless of substance or merit and then here's what he said and I listen to this what Moses brought down from Mount Sinai were not 10 suggestions there Commandments they are and not work Commandments, the sheer brilliance of the 10 Commandments is that they codify in a handful of words acceptable human behavior not just for Dan are now, but for all time. There was a Christian who went out to Hollywood and he was a Christian and that business and he was listening to Hollywood producers, tall one of television's most successful producers stated his sincere conviction that in any television script that is to be commercially successful, it must violate at least three of the 10 Commandments. He says if you want to be successful in the devil. Clever situational comedy is is to cause you to laugh at something. Now when you laugh at something you don't take it seriously animal, and with the devil can get you laughing at the transgression of the 10 commands you see what is done is is you'll have to take that seriously that's comical and so we have a generation is laughing its way into hell and there being systematically seduced Madonna was being interviewed by a homosexual publication, and she spoke about the impact that homosexuality and its imagery music videos is having upon straight America by here's what Madonna said.
Listen to this. They that is the American public digests on a lot of different levels. Some people will see it and be disgusted by but maybe they'll be unconsciously aroused by people keep saying it and saying it and see eventually. It's not going to be such a strange thing just keep soaking them in. Now that's the reason you as parents need to set some limits your foolish my friend.
If you think that you can watch that and it will not affect you commanding a fine as bosom and be not burn you mean the set some limits and all they need to be reasonable. How are you horrible parent by letting them by lifting them by limiting them and by leading them.
Here's the next thing that I did was go back to that proverb that I meant to be. Proverbs 22 verse six train up a child the way they should go and when he is old he will not depart from what is that word training. What is the key word is train to teach without training is to fail in your past dimming about a line play football by reading books.
What happens when a man goes to training camp at football. They all go to the library. I'll guarantee you not watch a man as he trained his hunting dog's amazing we train our dogs don't train our kids that would tie the dog up at night. Let the kids run one to train them blessedly what you want your children to be all the emphasis is today is on sports and grades and physical health and popularity and ability, not in care but some words contentment, courage, courtesy, discernment, fairness, friendliness, generosity, gentleness, helpfulness, honesty, humility, kindness, obedience, orderliness, patients, process the self-control tackled his thankfulness tripped and the rest of his teaching those things. Mom and dad. It needs to be you learn to complement character more than talent train. We have a member of our church. He has to find boys to the most godly kids I know anything about was God among us in this church. We always have been about one of those boys got lift off to his mother and that dad in our church sits on will taste something when you lift off at your mother like you did you send against God because God says you'd honor her you have to answer to God for that. But you send against Michelle and after bringing the life how ungrateful you been to speak your mother that way you have asked your mother for that subtlety something else. Not only is she your mother. She my wife you Michael talk that way to my wife as you are not going to talk that way to my wife and now not only have got to be with her. Be with you got me today with because you have disrespected my wife what convalescent is that the kid I think some of the greatest things I've ever heard in my life to see a husband come to the protection of his life he will be asked to take sides with her against his own child.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his wife. That's the kind of teaching that I'm talking about. That's the kind of training we have not. Here's the last thing not only by leading them, but by laughing with all. I hope that you will let your home be filled with joy and let it be filled with happiness. We need to lighten up. We need to learn how to laugh in our whole Bible has so many wonderful things to say about a merry heart.
God puts laughter. God puts joy. God put sunshine in the home. Did you know that the human species is the only creature of God they can do three things. Laugh and weep and blush like about Amazon blush. Animals don't weep and animus go away. God made us in his image and God has given us the gift of laughter and the Bible says he was in the heavens shall laugh because that speaks of the laughter of irony, but it is God that has that wonderful sense of humor. Let your kids see you laugh, let them see you laugh at yourself at your mistakes.
Here's the principle that I'm talking about right now friend when not what I'm saying laugh serious situations call for a lot of laughter back in 1953 Eddie Fisher was singing a song. It was called. Oh my Papa is what Eddie Fisher was saying it was most popular song. Oh, Michael, to me he was so wonderful all my to me.
He was so good. No one could be so gentle and so lovable all my Papa, he always understood drone of the days when he would take me on his knee and with a smile he change my tears to laughter all my Papa so funny and adorable. Always the clown so funny in his way.
All my Papa the me he was so wonderful deep in my heart I miss him so today. Oh my Papa oh my Papa everybody was saying that song and loving it. Whether or not there dad was laughable and the funny clown or not. That's the dad they wanted. Let your home be filled with fun. Let your children bring their friends to your house. Let them raid the refrigerator.
Let the mashed down the couch let them put fingerprints on the wall and thank God for that. Your home be the happiest place. Let your house laughter. Let your children see you laugh at yourself, let them see you laugh in time of trouble because it means that God is over it all.
There is a God in the glory in 1993 workers in the baseball Hall of Fame in Cooperstown were doing some remodeling and as they were moving a cabinet they found out in the crevice somebody and slipped the note was a part of the display. Now this is the baseball Hall of Fame.
They found a hidden photograph and was beneath the display case and I photograph was a picture of a man with a bad on the shoulder, and his uniform said Sinclair oil and stapled to the picture was a no, it was scribbled in 10 by his adoring fan and this is what it said you were never too tired to play ball. All your days off to help build the Little League field. You always came to watch me play you were hall of fame day.
I wish I could share this moment with you and somebody has slipped a picture of his dad down in the crevice so that all these other guys were making millions going baseball, but you dad are in the Hall of Fame. You know I like to be met Hall of Fame with you.
I like to be the kind of a dad and I know you like me to come among that when the Bible says children obey your parents's I'd like to make it a lot easier for you to do just that. You know how you begin to honor your earthly parents know how you began to be honorable to your children by first of all, honoring the heavenly father by being saved you like to be saved. You can be saved right now and I want to lead you in a prayer, and in this prayer, you can invite Jesus Christ in your heart as your Lord and Savior. You will be saved. I want you to pray right now this prayer dear God, I know that you love me and that you want to save me Jesus. I believe you're the son of God. I believe that you paid my send that with your blood on the cross. I believe that God raised from the dead. Now I receive you as my Lord and Savior come into my life. Forgive my sin I returned from my sin. Forgive me, cleanse me and save me, Lord Jesus begin now to make me the person you want me to be. I've got a lot of growing to do. I'm weak, but your strong so now, Lord, I you my life to you begin to make me what you want me to be in Lord Jesus give me the courage now to make this public health may never be ashamed of you.
Help me to make it public in your name I pray, amen. If you prayed to receive Jesus Christ. We want to celebrate with you and invite you to our discovery, Jesus page on the website to find answers there that you may need about your newfound faith is a response section as well. Let us know what God is done in your heart and life.
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