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A Plan for Your Family: God's vs. the World's, Part 1 B

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April 15, 2021 4:00 am

A Plan for Your Family: God's vs. the World's, Part 1 B

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The solution to the conflict in marriage is spiritual where you have a spiritual person in the home you have hope. Never try to pick a fight with a spirit control person ever try to pick a fight with somebody thank you for everything, even the conflict.

Conflict goes with the Holy Spirit sexual sin to educators, politicians and news outlets. The do seemingly everything they can to topple gender norms. It's pretty clear that our culture does not have a biblical view of sexuality, marriage or the family is not even close. The question is when it comes to your marriage and your family are you following the world's plan or God's John MacArthur helps you answer that question today as he continues his current series, the fulfilled family John before today's lesson I want to give you the mic to update our listeners on something that is still very exciting for Grace to you. It's a project that aims to make this verse by verse teaching available for billions who don't have access to it yet. So tell our listeners what's new with grace reaches out to hear the word billions billions while so first, a bit of history. It was in 2013 that we launched an initiative called grace reaches out the objective of grace reaches out is to translate a collection of our most important fundamental sermons and translate them into non-English languages. The total number of sermons is about 600 sermons. This is another way to fulfill grace to use purpose statement which we highlighted on the broadcast couple of weeks ago. So, specifically the grace reaches out project expands the scope of Bible teaching to multiple languages around the globe.

Now we have already nearly completed these sermons being translated into French, Arabic, Portuguese and Chinese and they are available for free downloading. Did you get that go to our website Jide Click on the sermons tab and scroll down the page and you will see on the right. A heading for grace reaches out, you'll find links to the available sermons while French, Arabic, Portuguese and Chinese in recent months translation into Russian began. We are also in the early stages of translation into Farsi, which is Persian. This is just incredible. The goal is eventually to broadcast these sermons in multiple languages on radio and other media outlets in the regions where these languages are spoken as well as on our Internet we want to blanket the world with the teaching of the word of God, pray that through this translation work gospel will spread souls will be saved and God will be glorified right and friend if you'd like to support these translation efforts and grace to use ministry around the world. You can make a, but for now, stay tuned as John MacArthur continues his most popular series, the fulfilled family now for us to get a grip on what God says about the family we really find ourselves best served by looking at Ephesians chapter 5. Now in this wonderful epistle that we are familiar with the epistle of Ephesians as Paul begins to launch into this subject. He starts, at least for us in verse 18, with a very key premise and let's begin there. He says and do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the spirit that really is the key that unlocks all the rest right kind of marriage relationship and a right kind of family relationship is built on a redeemed life, empowered and energized by the Holy Spirit in obedience to the word of God. Now look at verses 19 and 20. Speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord, we tell you something where the spirit of God controls a life where there is a life devoted to the word of God in obedience to the word of God. There is praise. That's the first verse 20 adds always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the father tell you what. It's very hard to argue with somebody was thankful for everything now out of those things flow flows yet another element first 21, and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ doesn't mean you're afraid of Christ. It just says be subject to one another. Now look here were not talking about who this.

This is in talking about wives to their husbands didn't talk about children or their parents talk about everybody but this is the groundwork, folks, this is what makes meaningful marriages. It's a spiritual issue here is not a matter of cleverness is not a matter of of ideas. It's not a matter of scheduling events.

It's not a matter of buying her gifts or whatever reverse buying him gifts or cooking. His favorite meal. Those are nice little things to do, but with two people who live according to the standards that we just read it wouldn't matter whether you did those or didn't do. That's not the stuff that makes for lifelong joy in a relationship. Submission does though were talking here about a generic kind of submission without regard for any specific relationship within the context of the family. The word submit by the way is very graphic, hoopla, tonsil it means to what it means to rank under to rank on its military term were called on to place ourselves under each other.

Here is what makes for meaningful relationships. Someone controlled by the spirit of God, obedient to the word of God filled with joy and praise and thanksgiving to God for every single thing in their life and eager to submit their will to everybody else.

That's what were after were called on to place ourselves under each other. This principle is dominant in Scripture. By the way, expressing the idea of humility expressing the idea of meekness that is so basic to Christian character now must you think this is a sort of a wandering verse or the just got dropped in. It's all over the New Testament. First Corinthians 1616, submit yourselves to everyone. Hebrews 1317, submit yourselves to the leaders of the church. First Peter 215, 213. Rather, submit yourselves to the laws of the land. First Peter 55, submit yourselves to those older than you are. James 47 submit yourselves to God and here submit yourselves to each other. This is the idea of humility.

Families meaningful marriages which are so essential to society and its preservation. Listen, which are so essential to real fulfillment in life are only possible where you have unselfish attitudes where personal desires are constantly sacrificed for others and if that's not happening. There cannot be meaningful relations. You cannot have the collision of two independently selfish individuals and build a relationship is a battle of people struggling to humble themselves.

That's essential that the key to all relationships to be spirit filled to be speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to be saying thanks and to be submissive just those four things. That's the foundation that is where you have to start this whole thing this whole idea of submission. I want to address a little further look at first Corinthians chapter 11 and will get into this a little more we talk about husbands. Somebody at this point might misunderstand and say will wait a minute. If everybody is submitting nobody's in charge and I just want to defer to that query. For a moment God has designed authority into a family and in the first Corinthian's 11 verse three Paul says I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man and the man is the head of a woman in God is the head of Christ weed, we aren't saying that there is no authority in the family. There is there is authority at the father level and there is authority over children at the parent level. We understand that were not talking about the responsibility of leadership were not talking about the responsibility of caring and protecting which is what that authority is were not talking about the, the authority of of teaching them and raising them and nurturing them in the Lord when it comes to children, but we are talking about here is this kind of mutual submission that says though I may be your leader and your protector and your provider.

You are longings and your heart desires and your needs, compel me more than my own. That's what creates the balance that is necessary.

I don't I'm not abdicating my responsibility as a husband to lead, to preserve and protect care for my wife am not abdicating my responsibility as a father to provide for my children to protect my children to give them direction and leadership and discipline build self-control and to them, but I do that I do that with the passion of my heart being the recognition that this best serves their needs whatever other needs they would have. I would eagerly desire to meet to the sacrifice of my own. If my heart is right and I'm speaking that is, anyone would in the perfect picture of that right there in verse three is the Christ is the head of every man and God is the head of Christ is God superior to Christ no is God of the different essence than Christ. No, our God in Christ one. Yes, it simply means that in the economy of redemption. Christ submitted himself to the purposes and plan and power of the father in every sense he was equal, and yet submissive and the father was completely sensitive to the heart of the sun Christ totally and willingly submitted to the needs of man submitted himself to the purposes of the father came in committed, really, what was the greatest active unselfish love ever dying on the cross to satisfy the father and to satisfy us. He was Lord over mankind. He was the sovereign who submitted he was the King who became a servant.

He was the rich man who became poor, he was the sinless one abortion. He was the author of life or accepted death. He was God dying for man that's hard at.

There's no question that he's the head of man, and yet is the servant of man. The picture there. Verse three is a marvelous one. He was equal with God, and yet he submitted to God. He was over man and yet he submitted the man and of the need of me. He stooped to meet man at the deepest point of his need on both counts. We see the illustration of the submissiveness of Jesus to the father's will to the need of man, even through great anguish and drops of blood. He said not my will but thine be done. You remember that the Scripture says be kindly affectionate one to another with brotherly love book of Romans in honor preferring one another. That's the idea that's the idea before we can talk about the role of the wife or the role of the husband of the role of the parents of the role of the children we have talked about the role of everybody with Christ you have equality with God and yet submission and in all of our relationships. There will be a spiritual equality. There will be spiritual authority and there will still be a spirit of submission and I'll tell you if you don't start with this is not much hope that there's not any suppose you grit your teeth and decide to stay together for the sake of whatever but apart from this kind of pattern laid out in Ephesians chapter 5. Marriage and family, becomes an incredibly difficult struggle. Very unfulfilling becomes a battle for individual rights becomes a terrible conflict.

We hear all the time about how oppressive men are how insensitive they are, how chauvinistic they are, how abusive and uncaring.

They are in. On the other hand we hear so often about women being overbearing seeking freedoms in the exercise of their own will and their own purposes and not wanting to submit to their husbands and why is this well it's because of sin, and maybe we can go back to the beginning and get a glimpse of this turn back in your Bible to the third chapter of Genesis, I want to share with you what may well be an interpretation of Genesis 3, worthy of consideration, I cannot be dogmatic and say it is absolutely unequivocably accurate. There was some are some who would take issue with any effort to be dogmatic in this regard, but is at least an interesting possibility in understanding where the conflict comes from.

We know of course it comes from selfishness. It comes from personal pride and personal sin. That's what makes relationships difficult.

Certainly in the family, but there may be another element to this conflict of very great interest if we look at Genesis chapter 3.

Let me call you to Genesis 3 verse 13 the Lord said to the woman, what is this, you've done and the woman said the serpent deceived me, and I ate and the Lord God said to the serpent because you have done this, cursed are you more than all cattle, and more than every beast of the field on your belly shall you go, and dust shall you eat all the days of your life and I will put enmity between you and the woman in between your seed and her seed, he shall bruise you on the head and you shall bruise him on the heel.

That being the curse of Satan but now the woman, verse 16 to the woman he said, here's the penalty you're going to pay and this is for all womankind to the woman he said, I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you shall bring forth children, yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.

The curse obviously they came upon the human race as a result of the fall in Eden altered significantly and dramatically. The original design of God before sin. There was perfect union. There was no conflict. Adam and Eve got along perfectly in sin was introduced and sin brought with it chaos and conflict. Another were several features to this curse. There was separation between man and God. As a result of sin and man. You remember was thrown out of the garden and intimate than free and full communion with God was ended. There was also a separation between man and nature. No longer would nature yield all of its bounty demand without any effort on his part.

Now we had to go out and by the sweat of his brow. We had to till the soil and work very hard to make the world yield to him. What once it gave him so freely.

Separation between man and God. Separation between man and nature, and finally separation between man and woman in the key part of the curse for us at the end of verse 16.

Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you. It is very possible that one statement answers the question why there is such conflict between men and women why looking first to the husband. It says at the end of verse 16, he shall rule over you over you. The word rule means rain. It's a word of sovereignty. So the curse said the man, as a result of the curse is going to dominate you and as a result of the curse you are going to desire him. What upset me doesn't mean that she will desire him physically and sexually.

I don't think that's a curse.

I don't think that that was occurs before the fall. It was already true that she had a desire for him and he had desire for her physically. That is the highest form of love's fulfillment in terms of physical pleasure. It is not that she would desire him as a as protector as the one who would care for her and support her and cover her that two already existed from the very beginning. She was designed to complement him, but he was the one responsible to care for her. That already existed as she was the weaker vessel and that is a delight to the woman to have such care and protection before the fall, so it has to be something other than sexual desire has to be something other than a desire to be cared for, protected, it is also true that the curse could not be physical or emotional desire, because not all women desire that, but all are cursed.

All women are curse but not all women desire their husbands physically. Not all women desire the emotional love and protection and care of their husbands. This has to be something. Something that touches all women, just as it is something that touches all men. First, the woman was cursed with pain in childbearing, but at the very life-giving point. The very ruler the very high point of womanhood to bring life into the world she is cursed, but additionally she is cursed with this desire for her husband. What what is it what is it mean will the only other time that were desire is used that is used over and chapter 4, we learn something when we find how a specific word is used in a given context. It's only other time its use in the whole book of Genesis effect.

The only time in the whole Pentateuch. The first five books and you'll notice in chapter 4 how it's used in verse seven, middle of the verse sin is crouching at the door and its desire exactly the same word is for you but you must master it. The construction here in the Hebrew is exactly parallel. It is an exact parallel construction using the very same word.

What you talking about talk about Kane. You remember Kane again offered the sacrifice that God did not accept because it was not what God asked men out of anger. Remember he killed his brother. And it says here the word comes to cane the Lord says to Cain, sin is crouching at the door. Kane and its desire is for you but you must rule over it now. What did sin want to do to Kane it wanted to crush him. It wanted to dominate him. It wanted to take over his mind and his action. Sin wanted to rule him. Sin wanted to force him to do certain things. Sin wanted to control him and that I think that is the parallel to what you have in verse 16 when it says your desire shall be for your husband is the same construction the same term is the desire that sin as to control you part of the curse is the woman no longer willingly, eagerly welcome submission, but there is something in her that wants to control the man she wants to usurp authority over her husband.

That's precisely what Eve did originally right. She should have gone to her husband sought his wisdom when tempted Satan knew that Satan isolated her Satan deceived her. She acted independently out from under the loving submission that should have been a part of her commitment to her husband and let the whole human race into sin, as she had done in the original sin when listening to Satan, never consulting Adam, she exercised authority over the man took things into her own hands and that was, in essence, the curse. Since that time, the sin of a woman, the innate depravity in women seeks to control man then is left with a curse as well. He seeks to dominate. Why is there always a women's liberation movement and if not a movement, and it's still there in the heart of the women of one of women and why is there a male chauvinism and has been and always will be, because that's how the depravity of the human heart reveals itself in women seeking to rule and men desiring to suppress and therein is one very possible explanation for the intensity and the ubiquitous character that means all the time everywhere of conflict in marriage woman by the fall in her fallenness is not willing to submit but desires to control to exert her individualism. Man by the fall.

Once the staking of the mountain and his rule can be oppressive and insensitive. Thus, the battle of the sexes began with the fall in Genesis chapter 3 children who come into the family. Just enter into the ring during the boxing match.

Not a good place for children to be so there is male chauvinism in the world and you can find it in cultures throughout human history. There is women's liberation in the world and the same thing. You can find it throughout history as each one expresses the effect of the curse everyone selfishly fighting for his or her own turf and the question then comes how can a marriage survive this kind of conflict. How can a marriage work and how can children find any peace in this kind of environment that even the more important question.

How can it be ended. How can it be ended.

We've already answered that question by two people who have come to know Christ whose lives have been transformed were characterized by being Spirit filled with joyful thankful and submissive to one another and that is a spiritual transformation in other eras in other cultures marriages have done better than in our contemporary world. Not too many years ago or so people stayed together. That was the standard way of conduct that was what society expected out of people and that's what happened. That does not mean that there was any less conflict because of fallenness. There will be conflict.

The solution to the conflict in marriage is spiritual and it starts with letting the Holy Spirit.

Control your life letting the word of Christ dwell in you richly obeying the spirit of God is reveals his will through the word of God. Only the power of the Holy Spirit can reverse the curse in a home where you have a spirit filled person in the home you have hope.

Never try to pick a fight with a spirit control person ever try to pick a fight with a totally joyful person that just has rising joy in their heart ever try to pick a fight with somebody was thankful for everything, even the conflict ever try to pick a fight with somebody was totally submissive, very difficult. Where that exists there's hope.

It's a spiritual issue. Conflict goes where the Holy Spirit dominates. That's John MacArthur, Chancellor of the Masters University in seminary continuing grace to use most in demand series.

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