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Molly Mormon — Part 1

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June 10, 2019 5:49 am

Molly Mormon — Part 1

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One member is examining the teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints from a biblical perspective viewpoint when Mormonism is sponsored by Mormonism research ministry since 1979 Mormonism research ministry has been dedicated to equipping the body of Christ answers regarding the Christian faith in a manner that expresses gentleness and respect. And now, your host for today's viewpoint on Mormonism welcome to this edition viewpoint on Mormonism on your host, Bill McKeever, founder director Mormonism research ministry with me today is Eric Johnson.

My colleague at M. R. M.

Confessions of a Molly Mormon. It is a book written by a Mormon woman by the name of Elana K Shelley.

She spells her first name EL oh and a Shelley has EY at the end. This is a book written by a lady member in the Mormon church. And if you've listened this show for any amount of time you know sometimes we do look at books written by non-general authorities and we want to say upfront that this book written by Ms. Shelley is not authoritative in the same regard as I would say a book written by a general authority in the Mormon church. This is certainly her opinions and I want to preface this series by saying that this is her opinion that Eric and going through this book. It makes me sad and and the reason why it saddens me is because what Elana Shelley experienced in the Mormon church and she still faithful members far as I know she's certainly defending the church.

Throughout the book while at the same time she's been pretty harsh and critical regarding the Mormon church, but she still faithful members. She's true to the system.

You might say.

And that's what makes me sad is because a lot of the things that the Mormon church does to its members.

Many times the member that is the victim of what the Mormon church does to them still defends the church. It's almost like Stockholm syndrome you're kidnapped by a person they've done.

You harm and then you end up falling in love with the kidnapper and even though there's many aspects. In this case of Mormonism being the kidnapper there's a lot of things she doesn't like about what's kidnapped her though. I'm sure she probably wouldn't look at it and quite that kind of a description but this is what makes me so sad about this.

I mean the title is confessions of a Molly Mormon trading perfectionism for peace fear for faith judging for joy. We've talked about the idea of perfectionism in Mormonism.

Many times you get a guy like Mormon apostle Jeffrey Holland who gets up in general conference in October 2017 addresses that very subject that morning should not think that they need to be perfect now that they will instead as he said in that talk. You will receive your perfection.

Eventually, but it raises the question why does someone like Elana Shelley go through the agony of thinking for certain.

In her Mormon lifetime. That perfectionism was expected of her in. This is what caused her a great deal of angst and she even writes in the book about how her previous years in the Mormon church. She got this guilt complex. This idea that she had to be the perfect woman and then writes about how that was the wrong way of thinking when I first saw this book. It was in a desert industry thrift store.

I found it a few months ago as I was looking through the religion section and the title caught me and I looked at it.

It was, I think it was a boxer $0.50 or whatever it was, I don't always buy books like this, but I thought this would be something that I think would be an interesting read because of what you just said the subtitle trading perfectionism for peace fear for faith judging for joy and I had the same feeling you did bill I immediately right when I saw that very cover felt sorry because I knew where this book was going to go and that's why I went ahead and purchased it and then read it. Apparently it was written in 2013 and she did a lot of book signings at Utah.

Costco's and the book is not that popular. But today it's independently published. I think I looked on Amazon. It was 1.7 million so it's not a bestseller by any stretch of the imagination, but I thought that this book would be good for us to look at because this is I think the very common ideas that many Latter Day Saints women are having in her journey in life and her spiritual perspective. I don't think is much different than many latter-day St. women who are in the church today. Maybe even some more listening to us right now that you've written a review of this book and it's posted before you posted. You had our own Sharon Lynn Bloom go through your review to give her perspectives on what you said so that we could understand. Maybe something that were missing regarding how a woman might think about this because we admit were males right so Sharon offered her advice regarding what you posted.

By the way she did like what you said.

But she had some advice and he read what she said as she said this something I find really interesting is that this sort of desperation, thinking, and she is referring to Shelley's book the rewriting of Mormonism's demand for perfection seems to come from women and not from men.

Maybe I just missed it. But this really seems to be a thing that women struggle with. They are the ones who need antidepressants and who need to change Mormonism's definitions of perfection and mercy etc. to be able to live within Mormonism. I wonder why men don't struggle with this as much, just a curious thought when I read that to you in an email that she sent to me, you immediately said she is spot on.

I think she is unfortunately the solution that Ms. Shelley comes up with makes in my opinion.

I'm trying to say this as delicately as possible, but I think it makes are inconsistent. She wants her grace and her Mormonism to and you can't do that in Mormonism and what I see in going through this book. She tends to want to ignore the very principles of Mormonism that caused her that grief. I mean I'm reading on the back of her book and she has some blurbs from.

Obviously some people who have read the book in one of them is from a Chris C Chris is spelled with a KI don't know if it's a man or woman. I'm assuming it's a woman with this person writes confessions. Speaking of the book gave me wonderful new insights into gospel principles and practices that I've known all my life now.

It's interesting that the phrase gospel principles is used in that blurb because you and I both know that that is a church manual there's a manual that's been revised numerous times since its first came out in the 1970s called gospel principles within a whole series on gospel principles and what I see in this blurb I see. Also in the book you're trying to make it match your trying to make it work, but unfortunately Mormonism is going to be the hindrance to really coming to get the piece the faith and the joy that Shelley seems to have found, but I think she's finding it despite the gospel principles of Mormonism. You see what I'm saying I and I do in the review that I wrote on the website that address the me just give the address Mormon review with hyphens in between Molly and Mormon in review and that you might want to go there. Let me just give you some of the citations that it are found in this review that at the very beginning. She's going to set the book up and tell you what a Molly Mormon is this is what she writes on page 2. I was afraid that if other people were aware of by internal struggles. They think I was in a good Mormon so I did my best to hide the truth and pressed on. I tried to compensate for my shortcomings by devoting excessive amounts of time and effort to church service, but no matter how much I did.

I never felt like I had done enough to measure up to God's stringent standards that we did a whole series on Galatians. Isn't that what people try to do they put the law out there and they do their best to try to meet it and they can't measure up, and she made that realization that she was not able to do everything that she thought she had to do to be this perfect Molly Mormon in which she expresses on that page and page 2 is exactly what the apostle Paul said a person will feel when they try to measure up to God's standards or tried to appease them by their good works on the page 3. She said she says for many stress filled years Molly Mormon had been my obsession, and why wouldn't she be she was everything I aspired to.

She was organized, efficient, and always in control. Not only was she an attentive and charming wife. She was also the mother of several immaculately groomed, brilliantly creative and perfectly behaved children.

Her home was spotless, yet comfortable, she sewed all of her family's clothing and probably took care of any mending that needed to be done. Each week she made delicious whole-wheat bread, often dropping off a loaf to someone who needed a little extra love or encouragement. She can hundreds of jars of homegrown fruits and vegetables each summer and generously share the bounties of her flourishing garden.

She served three delicious carefully balanced meals every day and of course she made full use of her ample food storage, which she rotated carefully.

She also talks about how this Molly as it's been turned got up early each morning studying the Scriptures for at least 30 minutes before going out for an invigorating 5 mile run without going into a lot of detail what she saying here or what she thinks that a Molly Morgan is basically what she's saying is this seems to be the perfect model of a Mormon woman right. That's where this phrase came from.

If you are looked upon as being the perfect example of a Mormon woman that's the phrase they attribute to you. You're a Molly Mormon, the male counterpart would be something like a Peter priesthood. I've heard that phrase thrown out, but this is the standard that a lot of LDS women feel they must live up to, not only to be pleasing in the eyes of their church, but also be to be pleasing in the eyes of their God, and you can see why this kind of lofty goal can be very depressing to many latter-day St. women and this is why prescription drug use among latter-day St. women in the state of Utah is epidemic it's a problem.

Another Mormon church would never admit that they are the problem. But yet doesn't it seem a little bit odd that so many latter-day St. women suffer from this. Unfortunately, the church is, I think the root of the problem.

I agree. And of course how can you feel comfort without jettisoning mean things that the church is instilled in its membership and see that's where I feel that that Ms. Shelley is being somewhat inconsistent. I rejoice in the fact that she's finding a piece in her life and that she's finding a fulfillment but I think she's done it at the expense of her Mormonism whether she wants to admit it or not, let me give you a couple other quotes just real quick. Page 5 she says Molly's coveted level of perfection remain completely out of my grasp.

With such a chasm between my reality and my lofty ideals. It's no wonder I often found myself engaged in a losing battle with depression for many long as stress filled years.

I was unaware of the chokehold, the Molly illusion had on my life and she has us on page 6. While my Molly Mormon obsession continue to thrive. The crushing weight of perfectionism left my guilt ridden spirit struggling for survival and what makes that statement so interesting is if you go back to her book cover on the back page it says in confessions of a Molly Mormon the lawn bunks.

Many of the faulty beliefs that led her down a path of deepening despair. She struggled to make herself and her family good enough to someday enter the celestial kingdom that expression their troubles me because knowing what Mormonism is all about spring as many years as I have studied unit.

I don't think a lot of the things she tries to debunk our faulty beliefs and Mormonism. I think if you're going to be a good Mormon those beliefs that you're supposed to believe and they would not be considered faulty by the general authorities in the LDS church tomorrow.

We begin looking more closely at this book by Alana K.

Shelley, confessions of a Molly Mormon. Thank you for listening you would like more information and research ministry. We encourage you to visit our website at you can request a free newsletter Mormonism research.

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