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May 18, 2021 6:46 am
David, it's not about me.
It was his leadership test.
David finally learn any past leadership is about serving not being served. David was certainly no place to make it really mean to be a servant leader, Ralph Waldo Emerson one side. It's one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself today. Pastor Chadwick shows how King David exemplified what it means to be a servant leader. John 13 tells us how things the mill and went from disciples feet disciples the disciples feet wash their trying to tell them that leadership's about food, wash is about serving is about giving not being the greatest that's the message that God wanted David to learn.
It was his leadership test.
It's not about me.
David finally learned any past leadership is about serving not being served. They learned and passed the test. David was a servant leader. That's God's desire for all of us who are influencing anyone else. Let me give you several examples of servant leadership. I thought of many of you may know, I had the privilege of playing basketball universe North Carolina under Dean Smith not not understand y'all.
The skill will honor the March madness, you're okay.
I understand that many of you are ABC years anybody but Caroline.
I got get that okay and that of North Carolina played the Taliban you would root for the Taliban I get there. Okay, I understand that. Nevertheless, Dean Smith got this principle he understood this, that his job was to serve not be served and every one of us to play for him knew that and that's why we loved playing for him so much we give you a story that exemplifies Coach Smith's understanding of serving not being served in the mid-1980s, Norcal was playing one of those games of the year against the University of Maryland, the winter, but would receive the top seed in the Eastern regional would always mean you stay close to home and give you an advantage to try to reach the final four. Marilyn had a great team working on had a great team the week before the game. King rice starting point guard on work on his team got into a campus altercation started jail he didn't call Coach Smith even occurred.
Smith told us, always. If you're ever in trouble. I don't care after you've even graduated call me I'll always be there for Coach Smith had to go find him and assured him I am here to help you. King always well that week in the press, there was a furious debate over whether Coach Smith should start King rice are not you note he shouldn't. He's in jail you shouldn't have that privilege. But coach Smith steadfastly stood behind his player and said he's innocent until proven guilty. So we started them in the game and he played horribly awful, especially the last five minutes he threw the ball out of bounds kicked the ball turned it over the normally magnanimous North Carolina crowd toward light blue started yelling cascading blues down upon King rice and coach Smith taken out take about this game is too important take about an Norco I lost the game in the locker room after the game was Richard. Then Richard, the former mayor of the city of Charlotte Richards about my height, six, seven, and a Richard went to Vietnam to serve our country, and coach Smith would send him every week a cassette tape of each one of the games. Remember cassette tapes and Richard and coach Smith had like a surrogate father son relationship. But after that game.
Richard was ticked like so many Carolina fans event like this with a really bloated so he said in Cushman. I just don't understand why you did that you know I love you I care for you, but you really made a bad decision today. You should have taken King rice out of that day. A backup point guard would've been better how horribly he was playing and Richard told me the story coach Smith came up to him and Christmas about 510. Stuck his finger up close to Richards nose so I'll tell you something Richard been rude. He said King Rice's sense of self-worth for the rest of his life is far more important to me than winning a stupid Atlantic Coast conference basketball game coach Smith gets it. The purpose of the leaders to serve not be served.
People asked me all the time why were you guys so willing to run through brick walls for that man. That's the reason it's an eternal spiritual truth. The purpose of power and leadership is to serve not be served. Let me take a moment and give you a parenthesis because I think I need to tell you this, you can be very successful as a leader publicly in your office but if you're not a leader at home you fail. David is a perfect example of this. First of all, let's look at how the husband is supposed to relate to his wife, biblically in marriage and you'll see this profound principle of serving not being served. Continuing Adam and Eve had their honeymoon in Paradise and everything went downhill from there.
Abraham lied to times to Pharaoh, saying that his wife Sarah was his sister so that he would avoid some kind of punishment, wise, bold, courageous guy right can you met with a conversation with them was that night and then he impregnated Sarah's servant girl Hagar, Isaac and Rebekah spent their marriage quibbling over their two sons Isaac favored his manly outdoor son Esau, his wife favored Mama's boy Jake Jacob had kids by two wives and also the two servant girls on his wife.
12 kids and all were born to them and as you look at their quibbling and problems you say now that's really a dysfunctional family. All we have about Moses and his wife Sapporo is they had a huge argument over the circumcising of their son and she called Moses a bridegroom of blood. She's a real encourager is in seeing Joe went through all kinds of trials and troubles, and at some point near the end.
His wife finally said to him why he does curse God and die. Thank you very much Mrs. Joe back to David.
He had 10 wives 10 at the last militant how you justify polygamy in the Bible was never God's original intent got me to clear Genesis 224 what he wanted marriage to be between a man and a woman forever, but God allows the hardness of human heart. Like with divorce that was never God's intent. He wanted us to learn to love each other and be together forever nor did he intend polygamy, but he made provisions for because he knew how evil our hearts were but David at 10 wives and many children and each one was a disaster. Here's this man after God's own heart and he couldn't even love his wife which reminds me of Ephesians chapter 5 verse 25 guys, are you ready to get your feet stamped on just a bit. Husband's love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her enough marriage is very important to God, which is, and if everything rises and falls on leadership in the world which does maybe successful godly Christ centered marriages begins with the leader of the home. The husbands granted that privilege by God, who were called it like Jesus did with the church to be willing to die for their wives, and I don't know a woman alive who wouldn't gladly follow a man who is willing to die for and love.
I'll say it again.
David Chadwick can be successful in this community have all kinds of followers all kinds of the claim, but if I fail with Marilyn, I failed.
And David as a father.
He had many children by these different wives. But there's one story that sticks out to me Amnon, one of his sons had a real crush on one of his half-sister's name Taymor. She evidently was a paid, so he forced himself upon her Absalom another son of David was ticked off and he killed Amnon will David was ticked off and Absalom for killing Amnon and he relegated him out of the kingdom.
He stayed there for three years until finally someone came to David and said invite Absalom back your heartbreaking. You need to have contact with your son. So David invited them back for two years didn't speak to them during those two years, Absalom became so angry at his father that he developed a strategy for building relationships with all the powerful people in the kingdom and overthrow his father's throne. He basically came in a Jerusalem kick his dad out and one of his dad. Dad why I would suggest to use because David is a dad was a failure. He was a man after God's own heart, but he misted with marriage and he missed it with his kids. I said this so often had a kid spell loved folks how T IME, and David failed to spend any time with Absalom, my daddy was such a powerful influence on my life.
I don't remember a whole lot about what he ever taught me.
I just remember him modeling faith in Christ and my faith from my dad was largely caught not taught.
Amen. And you women to you can be successful in the world but you only get these kids wants you never get them again and if your primary energy is going to be successful in your kids grow up not to follow Jesus and rebel failed.
Now I know some kids are going to rebuild. The matter what. You can't feel that guilt but during these years when you have them during these formative years. He realized so David was a great leader publicly failed at home. Is there a way to bring them together. There is folks, if you make your primary calling in the workplace and at home to serve not be served. That is the example of Jesus that Paul gives to us in Philippians chapter 2 verses five through 11 have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.
And being found in human form, he humbled himself and becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
Therefore God has highly exalted him, and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, you are listening to moments of hope coming later. David is living right. This is the ministry meant focusing on ministries that have a positive impact on our community by Mark McManus and here's Jim Noble with the dream Center, Charlotte Jimbo and Bowen direct tell you guys. Thank you, Melissa Poe, David Chadwick, all of you there will, for us, you been there since OA starting Kings and grew into the dream Center will last eight weeks, probably exceeding 55,000 words that you made such an impact in the city is one word that with the meals so, are the words that never come out as well is the meals and you know the first collimated side of Israel and provide you a phone call. Everything you and not only that, you also drink this week is all dreams and with you as you got last week is see listening to moments of hello I'm James Easton and Whitney is our pastor David, thanks for joining us today hi Jan, I hope you're doing well and I think he is your family okay. My family okay and your husband Chris has been. I went and I wanted to check on you all to make sure that you're okay. You are so thoughtful and thinking, David. We are well we have gas in our tanks and we are doing well.
You have gas in your tank, you're probably way ahead of most everybody else out there all struggling with long gas lines and for those of us who are bit older, we remember the 1970s, when during the Jimmy Carter presidency. We had these long gas lines of people in the weight in and it's very similar, eerily similar to those days as well.
Nine for sure. Well, let's talk a little bit today about your latest David is and that is called sanctified serendipity's can you talk to a lot of people wonder what in the world is that phrase means.
Let me unpack it.
Have you ever read Aesop's fables heard now many of the stories. There are well known and people love to tell them they give great insights into practical living what one of Aesop's fables is about a man who would regularly travel to a land called serendipity, and when he was there. There would always be strange and unexpected occurrences that would happen and Aesop's fables would tell about this man's travels in each one would be a different kind of surprised that would happen to him when he was in the land of serendipity, and over time as people read that and loved the fables that word serendipity was translated into serendipity's. That's where the word comes from and it means when you have strange and unexpected occurrences that happen in your life. You know those amazing out of nowhere surprises that come to you and you're sitting there scratching your head going, where did that come from, and you call it a serendipity. Again, it's rooted in Aesop's fable about this man who traveled to that strange land called serendipity where all of these unexpected occurrences would happen to him. So somebody along the way, coined the phrase sanctified serendipity is saying basically that in God's economy, there's no such thing as a serendipity that there's no such thing as a total complete surprise, that if God is sovereign over all of his universe and knows the name of every single one of us and knows the order of our cells and atoms in each one of our human bodies that there's that old phrase of one Adam is out of God's controlled and every atom is outside of God's control. He oversees everything in life. So if that's the case again. There is no such thing as a serendipity. There's a sanctified serendipity. The word sanctify means set apart holy. It means that God oversees everything that happens in our lives and what may seem like a surprise in our lives is really God's sovereign oversight of our lives.
Let me share with you a quick win Jan that happened in my life that has had a profound effect upon me.
I had this guy Bugging me about meeting this girl name Marilyn and this was when I was in seminary, and she was a little younger than I was. She just graduated from University of Georgia but this guy kept bugging me and bugging me and bugging me and I finally said okay I'll call her and we made a blind date and bottom line is we enjoyed each other so much. We stayed 10 hours on the blind date and then were engaged three months later and they were married nine months.
But what's so interesting is this guy was visiting Marilyn's roommate during Marilyn's time in Atlanta and Marilyn was coming to that apartment where she was staying in early morning but her car broke down and she was four hours late, so she finally got there. The car was fixed and she got into the apartments parking lot got out, walked up the stairs and right at that moment.
This guy was walking down the stairs would been visiting with Marilyn's roommate and she was walking up.
He was walking down, they said hi then he went on and then later he went back to his room and said who is she I think she would really enjoy a friend of mine named David and near subtle thing up. Bottom line is, he wouldn't have had this opportunity to introduce Marilyn to me if it had not been for a five second encounter with her as she was walking up the stairs. He was walking down the stairs and plus her car had broken down, delaying her getting to the apartment that morning for four hours and I look at that and I say you know what that is the best definition of serendipity I possibly think strange, unexpected, surprising occurs, it really was dramatically life-changing for me because she's now the love of my life and married over 40 years.
We have three children, eight grandchildren, and we don't know how many others will be affected in generations to come because of that five second serendipity, but it really wasn't a strange unexpected encounter from God's economy was a sovereign sanctified serendipity was overseeing everything healing for that five second encounter with Steve for Marilyn to then meet and for him to introduce me to her. Everything is under God's control.
I wonder if you might have a strange unexpected serendipity like that this happened in your life thinking and I know there are countless countless stories I could tell. Recently I was putting my daughter to bad and sees she's a teenager you young early teen and said those are really precious moments, just the two of ice and she had said something to me about it because you had puppies all the time. You know my parents, Brad dogs and so we always had litters of puppies and you know and we don't have a dog my husbands elsewhere. Jackie know we like to travel and that we don't see. Of course every child wants a pat on some things about my childhood that you don't know where so easy you know like you've got peace and joy, and a community around you in different things and I was able to make tell her of the good things that she has and mediator Blair just gave me puppies as a child. Well lo and behold a couple weeks after we had this precious conversation it just flipping the switch on perspective. Something in my life that kind of fell apart and I was able to go back and say Lord you prepared my daughter and me to have these conversations not growling because of that one conversation about these puppies and for now we have this baseline of intimacy and language that claim five second moment that I feel like it definitely was not a coincidence. Will every moment is a five second moment. That's the whole point of this message today that there is no serendipity. This unexpected occurs and happens like you have this wonderful conversation with a early teen and just the have that conversation is meaningful within itself because those are precious moments, but then that opens up the door to something else which opens up the door to something else and you got the idea that there is no such thing really in the English language as a serendipity that everything is a sanctified serendipity God's overseeing everything in our lives and we just need to trust him in the moment that he's working, he's present, he's powerful, and somehow someway will see maybe later down the road like you and your conversations with your daughter and me being able to see now, eight grandchildren, I love God is working in everything folks trust him.
He's overseeing your life is in control and there will be great faith in your heart increases when you realize that reality today and forever, so powerful, thank you so much stated in everyone.
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