Experiencing Gods Mercy After Leaving the Abortion Industry (Part 2 of 2)

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Become a monthly giver at FocusOnTheFamily.com slash family. Today on Focus on the Family, we're returning to the powerful, inspiring story of Abby Johnson. This conversation is going to touch on topics that aren't suitable for younger listeners. We'll recommend you direct their attention elsewhere. Women and men will come up to me and say that, you know, I've had an abortion or I, you know, had an adulterous relationship or whatever it may be. They say, can you really forgive me? And I always kind of laugh and say, if he can forgive me, he can forgive you. He can forgive anything.

And not just that he can, but he wants to. Today, Abby Johnson has a huge platform as a pro-life advocate, and she believes that anyone who has been touched by the evil of abortion, including former abortion workers like she was, can experience God's fierce mercy, his love, his unconditional love. Thanks for joining us today. Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly, and I'm John Fuller. John, last time we heard from Abby, one of my favorite people, actually, and you probably hear that in my enthusiasm, but it's a miracle what God has done in her life. She was a former Planned Parenthood director of a clinic. And then the Lord just, man, opened her eyes as she participated as an assistant, unplanned assistant in an abortion. And when she saw it, it caught her attention and she went home different.

And you can hear that if you can go to the website or get the smartphone app, you can hear the program from last time. But just powerful. And she ended last time also encouraging everybody that if she can be forgiven, I think she said for over 22,000 abortions that she participated in, you could be forgiven.

And that's powerful. And what a great testimony that Abby has. And her ministry is called And Then There Were None, and that reaches out to help abortion staff transition from that line of work and ultimately to find hope in Christ. Abby and her husband, Doug, have eight children, and we're so glad to have her back, Jim.

I love the eight children. Abby, welcome back. Thank you.

And Fierce Mercy, we covered that, the title. You're a lion-hearted woman. I mean, you are in it and you are fighting away, and I so appreciate what God has done in your life. I really mean that.

It's so exciting. And I want to kick off today for you to describe that fierceness that you have in this pro-life fight. I mean, you were in there working on behalf of Planned Parenthood, doing a good job. You got the Employee of the Year award, and then boom, the Lord changes your heart. And you have worked ferociously but gently with those in the industry. I think we mentioned last time over 600 employees of the abortion industry have come out and recognized that this is not something they want to be a part of, and many of them, I think, have made a commitment to Christ as well.

So it's really followed that pathway that the Lord blazed for you. Speak to that perspective that you have. What are some challenges facing the pro-life community in the debate today? We've had that great Supreme Court decision. It kind of changes the landscape, but it really doesn't change the debate. Right, yeah.

You know, it's such a good question. It was very exciting to see Roe overturned. I mean, Roe needed to be in the ash heap of history. Which simply means there's no federal requirement or legality that you can get an abortion. It just took the federal side of that away and put it back in the hands of the states.

Right, but for the overwhelming majority of states in this country, it really meant nothing. I mean, by and large, in most states, you can still get an abortion at a brick-and-mortar abortion facility. And then, of course, our current president and his incredibly partisan FDA has now greenlit the medication abortion, chemical abortion pills, to be sold at every pharmacy across the United States and male. So that essentially turns any woman's home into an abortion facility.

I think that we don't even know, not just the physical ramifications of this, but I think more, as a therapist, I think more about the emotional consequences of this. And I think that we in the pro-life movement really need to be cognizant of that. Not only what has this already done to women, because we're talking about over 60 million babies that have died.

So we're talking about millions and millions of women and fathers who have been affected by this. I think a lot of times we see anger in the abortion community and we ourselves get our hackles up. Right.

And we say, how can you not see what you've done? Right. And we lash out, particularly on social media, we lash out and we then become angry because they're angry. And maybe we don't say the kindest things.

Right. I think what we need to recognize is that there are walking wounded among us everywhere. And a lot of times their anger is really hurt. It's just that their hurt is so deep. They don't recognize. They don't recognize what's really going on inside of them because abortion is so incredibly unnatural. It pits women against their own children. And of course, that's going to create a deep wound inside of them. But they just they feel anger.

They don't recognize it as hurt. And so now with this expansion of medication, abortion, the expansion of chemical abortion in our country, we don't know what that's going to do psychologically to women. We're talking about women passing their children, fully formed children, into the toilets of their bathrooms and then having to make a decision. What do I do with my baby? Do I flush my baby down the toilet? Do I do I reach in to my toilet? Do I do I pick my baby up? Do I take it somewhere to bury?

What do I do? And then that same woman has to go back to that that same scene and relive that trauma over and over and over again. What does that do to her? Yeah, I mean, that's such a, you know, sharp depiction. And it's breathtaking, actually takes your breath away to think of that poor woman in that situation and what to do.

I mean, thankfully, there's organizations like yours and like focus, man, make that call and let us be there and help you as best as we can. I would say. And, John, you give those details a little lighter.

But it's tragic. I think the war against women is really important. If we could stop and just cover that for a minute. I mean, people no longer publicly can give you a definition of a woman. What is going on with our culture attacking, you know, women in the way that they're doing that. It's like women always get the short shrift of the culture.

If you get pregnant, kill it. If you think you need a man, forget that they're horrible. I mean, women are just always under the scrutiny of the culture. It seems to me and they're always losing. They're not doing those things that are God given to them like nurturing their child. I mean, to separate a child from its mother emotionally.

How deep is this insidiousness going? Yeah, well, unfortunately, women are are taking the bait. Right. Instead of instead of going against this and saying, no, this is something that is inside of me that is good. And I want to proudly proclaim my femininity.

I want to proudly proclaim my womanhood. They're allowing society to to weaken who we are as women. And this, I mean, was very personal for you with your marriage to Doug. I mean, this was part of the book that you talked about how you had to reframe and recast your understanding of what marriage was about.

How did you and Doug work through that? Well, so, you know, working in the abortion industry, I was encouraged not to marry Doug. I was encouraged to abort Grace when I got pregnant with her. Marriage and family is not encouraged, as you can, you know, expect, I guess, in the abortion industry. And it's always being with your family is discouraged and allowing your husband to have any sort of headship in your home, of course, is discouraged. So, you know, if your husband doesn't support what you do, we'll just leave him. You don't need a more important. You don't need a man anyway.

Right. We're your family. You need us, not him. So that was always the theme inside of my clinic. My boss did not like Doug at all and, you know, was encouraging many times for me to just leave my marriage, even though I had a child. And I mean, I have to say, it wasn't like I left the clinic and then marriage is great, you know, our marriage is good again, because I had done that to him for so many years. If it hadn't have been for our faith, if it hadn't have been for God and the sacrament of marriage, and knowing that we're not giving up on this, that God has the power to heal our marriage. There were hard times in our marriage, even after I left the clinic, because it's hard.

I would think especially after you left, actually. Yes, it's hard to heal a damaged marriage, but it can be done. Oh, yeah. And we did it. And so we did it and God did it. God did it in our marriage.

And, you know, and then God did something even more amazing in our marriage and he opened us up to life. How many kiddos? And now we have eight children. And now there are eight. That's the title of your next book. Well, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly and our guest today is Abby Johnson. And boy, we've covered a lot of ground in this second day already.

There's still more to come. Let me just jump in and remind you that Abby has written a terrific book, Capturing Her Heart and Her Journey. And I think it'll encourage you.

It's called Fierce Mercy, Daring to Live Out God's Compassion in Bold and Practical Ways. Contact us for details about the book and also our Hope Restored Marriage Intensives, which, Jim, I mean, that's a natural tie in right here. We've got a lot of resources to help you in your marriage wherever you're at. Two very different resources, but we're here to help. And our number is 800, the letter A and the word family. We're stopped by focusonthefamily.com slash broadcast.

Abby, let me pick up. We've mentioned it a couple of times yesterday and today about your ministry and then there were none. I want you to elaborate on that because it's born out of that pain and your desire to see more people in the abortion industry come out and have those scales fall from their eyes. And it's been tremendous. Describe it. Describe the conversations you have.

How does it even happen? I mean, most of us see them as the enemy. And I'm going to talk to you about that in a minute. But in that context, how has God opened up those doors for you? Yeah. Well, there was nothing like this out there for abortion clinic staff. So I was at a conference in Los Angeles and I had gotten off the stage and I was walking backstage and I had this woman, I heard this woman screaming my name, just this desperation in her voice. And there was some security with me and they said, you shouldn't go over there. And I said, oh, I'm going. I've got to go.

I've got to go. So I walked over there to her. There was this barrier in between us and she just fell into my arms. And I thought, oh, well, she's had an abortion.

That's what I thought. And she I said, what's what's going on? And she said, I work at Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles. And she said, I don't want to go back. And I said, OK, well, then you're not going to go back. Right.

We're going to we're going to figure this out. That was when I really started looking into what's what's out here in the pro-life movement. I had I was very fresh out of Planned Parenthood and I started looking around what nationally is out here for people like me who have left the abortion industry. I thought we've got ministries for everything. Certainly we have a ministry for that. That was when I found out there was nothing.

Yeah. So I went to some of my friends, my new friends in the pro-life movement. I said, this is something that I want to start. And everybody kind of patted me on the head and said, that's really cute, Abby, but that will never work. Nobody nobody's going to come out of these abortion clinics and come into the pro-life movement. And really, a lot of them said to most of them said to me, Abby, you just have to recognize that some people are too far gone. Wow. And they said that to me. Yeah. They're looking at me saying this.

And I just said to them, but I did. Right. And they all said, but you're different.

Right. You're the one. But I'm not different. I was this wretched sinner in need of a savior and he saved me.

And if he did that for me, I'll do that for anybody. And so that just, if you know me and my personality, that just made me say, well, now I'm really doing it. Right. I'm doing it even harder now.

It's a good way to motivate you. So don't do it. Yeah. So we got it started. We did not know how we were going to do this, but we had no money.

Right. So hard to kind of make a budget with no money, but we did. We thought if we had 12 workers leave in that first year, that would be miraculous. That first year we had 56 leave. Wow.

And God, we knew that God was up to something really amazing. And now here we are, you know, 10 years later, 640 workers. We provide really anything that they need. So financial transitional help for them. We don't want money to be a reason that someone stays in something that's evil.

So once they recognize I have to get out of here, then we want them to leave immediately. So we provide that transitional financial help. We have people working to get them other jobs, resume help, spiritual help. We provide all inclusive healing retreats for them.

Describe that, because I wanted to touch on that. Yeah. We have a location in Texas where we fly them down all expenses paid. We have a Christian therapist there. I'm one of them. And it's facilitated by Christian therapists. And we just really dive in to their healing. What have they done? We have them write out an admission of guilt.

We have them figure out how many abortions they participated in. You know, it's it's a lot of work. It's hard, but they leave transformed. You know, you can't heal from what you don't acknowledge and what you don't what you're not accountable for. And we want them to to leave recognizing what they've done, what they've participated in, but also recognizing that God will heal that.

Paint a picture is, you know, to the limit of exploring that. But paint that picture of an experience, change the name, whatever you need to do. But what would that look like for that abortion worker to come down?

Well, I'll tell you one experience we had with a woman and her name is Annette and she tells the story publicly. But she came to a retreat. She almost didn't come.

But she did because we had bought her ticket and she didn't she thought we were nice and she didn't want to waste our money since we'd bought the ticket. But she had written out a suicide note and she had made the plans. She had two children and she had made plans. She had written out the plans for where her children were to go after she had committed suicide.

She had put her wedding ring in the trash can and was just planning to end it all when she came back from the retreat. And so she came to the retreat and she just had an amazing encounter with the Lord at our retreat. And she admitted to us that when she got back home, she was planning on on killing herself. But the Lord transformed her that weekend. And so when she got back home, she ripped up the suicide note. She got her wedding ring out of the trash and rededicated herself to Christ and is now one of our most influential speakers for our ministry.

And she's getting her Ph.D. and she's thriving. Yeah. I want to touch on the criticism that comes from the Christian community. I think I'm using that label correctly, but when I hear the stories, I'm not sure how deep their relationship with Christ is. And that's a you know, I get it. That's a chiding statement.

But people in your sphere, Christians that contact you will say what to you and their criticism of your ministry. I think the most common thing is, you know, these are baby killers. Why would we want to help them? They've made them suffer.

Right. Let them suffer. They've made their bed. They can lie in it. They don't deserve heaven.

They deserve to be in hell. And I think if if we as Christians really understood hell, we would never wish that on anyone. Well, that's the Lord's heart. And that's the Lord's heart. Right. So he wants everyone to be to spend eternity with him. And certainly we must be accountable for what we've done. Right. But he doesn't want anyone to spend eternity in hell separated from him. And so that's our great commission.

Right. To spread the gospel to everyone. Well, and not only that, but you know, this idea that we're better than somebody else is dangerous. I mean, Jesus himself spoke to that. We all sin. We just sin differently. And these workers are sinning differently.

And it's a grievous sin. But no one is too far gone for the mercy of Christ. And I think that, you know, we have seen great strides in the pro-life movement. You know, just mercy being spread just, you know, in the past 10 years since our since our ministry has grown and spread. And I do think that part of that is because of what we're doing, because we are bringing some humanity back into the pro-life movement through sharing these stories of these these abortion clinic workers. But I think that when we first started, we were really trying to create a paradigm shift in the movement, because I think what had done anytime there's a human tragedy, people try to find someone to blame. That's very natural. And so I think the natural person to blame with the tragedy of abortion is those who are assisting and committing the abortions.

Right. The abortion clinic worker, the abortion doctors. So I think that was natural. But what had happened was that the pro-life movement had done to the abortion clinic worker what they had accused the abortion clinic worker of doing to the unborn child. And that was dehumanization. And we had all participated in this big cycle of dehumanization. But the Lord wants to re-humanize all of us and for us to see everyone in his image. And that's really what we're trying to do. Well, I love the late Chuck Colson, who was a good friend.

And I remember we had lunch one time and he said something that I think he said he was repeating. But you don't get mad at a blind man who steps on your foot. I mean, that is what you're saying, that we should have sympathy for people who are spiritually blinded that don't understand it. How they are going to be drawn into a relationship with Christ is right there in Romans 2 forward. Don't you know it's God's kindness that leads one to repentance.

And so you're doing a fabulous job in that way. And, you know, to the critics, I would just encourage them to go read a bit about the Pharisees. And you don't want to end up in that place. You don't want to hear.

I never knew you. So, you know, a gentle nudge in that direction if you have that kind of attitude toward sinners. So let's touch the movie real quick. There's a movie coming out to this exciting movie number two. And I think it's called unthinkable.

It is. And describe that. So, you know, we have so many really unimaginable stories from these former abortion clinic workers. I think for me, I hear them so much and it was my life for eight years.

So I hear these stories so much from these workers. And so for me, it kind of just becomes every day. Right. How exciting, though. I mean, yeah.

And so. But my staff, you know, they kept saying, Abby, if people heard. What is really going on in the abortion industry? It would be hard for them to believe. I mean, the world needs to hear the reality of the abortion industry.

Everybody needs to hear this. And so I really started thinking about it. And I ended up talking to a documentarian and we said, you know, let's do it. Let's really show the underbelly of the abortion industry, because for a long time, people have said, you know, I'll talk about things that happened in my clinic and and they'll say, well, critics will say, well, that's that's what happened in your clinic. That's not what happens in every clinic. And so I said, well, let's put that to the test.

So that's really what I'm kind of on a hunt to figure out. And we're talking to dozens and dozens of former abortion clinic workers, former abortion clinic doctors, nurses, medical assistants, people, you know, former workers that run the gamut and we're putting them in the hot seat. And we're saying, what did you see? What did you experience?

Was my experience just singular to my facility? Or did you see this, too? And they're telling stories. I'm telling you, it is going to blow people's minds. What are the details? When is this coming out? So it's coming out September 30th of this year.

That's the scheduled date for release. And it will be a release in in theaters. So we're really we're really excited. And I think it is really going to open minds and change people's minds.

Well, that sounds amazing. And what a great, great, again, a great contribution to the battle that we wage here for the for the baby and the mothers and the husbands and boyfriends that are part of this. So thank you, Abby. This has been so good. We're right there at the end again.

I mean, it just goes by so fast and it's like sitting on the couch in the living room talking with you. And I'm so proud of you. Thank you for what you're doing and the way you do it.

The attitude in which you do it with mercy and compassion. And what a great book, Fierce Mercy kind of encapsulates your personality, I think. And I hope you get a copy. You know, don't go to the retailers and get it from Focus on the Family. And all the money goes right back into ministry.

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